Thursday, 13 August 2015

How To: Long Distance Friendships


As we grow older, friendships grow apart. Upon discovering social media around the ages of 12/13, I began talking to new people who shared similar interests all across the country.

Introducing 'How To: Long Distance Friendships'! I won't pretend that I am some sort of expert on friendships, but as one of my best friends lives on the opposite side of the country, and the other lives away at University for most of the year, I would say I have some advice to offer if you happen to be in a similar situation. 

Long distance friendships take commitment, and I don't just mean the kind of commitment that you feel when you spend £50 on a pair of shoes that you "just have to have". It's the kind of commitment that hurts when you realise that you can't nip round to their house for a cuppa when you're sad, but it makes it all worthwhile when you do see each other. 

Communication is KEY! A simple text, tweet or Snapchat makes the days pass a lot quicker. The fact that our generation is based around technology is brilliant for maintaining relationships as we now have so many ways to communicate with anyone and everyone. I have a few tips here that have helped me out over the years.

1. Watch movies or TV shows together - Use FaceTime or Skype and watch something you both enjoy together! This is one of my favourite things to do as you can engage in both the activity and conversation.

2. Send letters or gifts - What's cuter than receiving a handwritten letter in the post? I find letters are more personal, and well, gifts are always nice to receive. Surprise the other with something sentimental, or be silly and buy a joke present! Either will always be appreciated.

3. Find common interests - Although they say "opposites attract", it's difficult to keep up any relationship when there is nothing to talk about. Discover something you both enjoy!

4. Life updates - You don't know what outfit to wear? Text your best friend. Fallen over in the street? Text your best friend. Little messages throughout the day about the most random events will enable you to keep each other in the know, as well as brighten your day a little. 

5. Social Media - The biggest influence of our generation, now although it isn't a necessity, it's where EVERYTHING is posted. Therefore if texting and calling isn't your thing, you can always keep in touch via the millions of apps available.


"True friends are families which you can select." - Audrey Hepburn

Let me know your thoughts on long distance friendships and if you have anymore tips!



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  1. I find using social media (twitter, facebook, skype) is the key to long distance friendships! its perfect cause you can connect anytime/anywhere! :)
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  2. Watching TV shows together via Skype is amazing! Also using social media is the key to keeping a long distance friendship!
    Laura x
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  3. Ah these are all such great ideas, I have a few frinds from uni that live soooooo far away from me, but we chat most days on fb anyway!

    The Velvet Black | UK Style & Beauty Blog

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    1. That's good :) glad you keep in touch x

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  4. This is such a good post!
    Whilst I don't have any old, long distance friends, I've made some great friends since I started blogging and I'm going to write them a letter. I like that it's personal :)

    Bex x

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  5. Great post! I have always had Internet friends so I've always kind of dealt with the long distance thing. Then I sort of flipped it on its head when I moved away from Canada to England as many of my former long distance friends are nearby and my Canadian friends are now the ones who are far away! Weird! Anyway, yes, I think just normal communication is key. Technology is so amazing!

    Aisling | aisybee.

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    1. That is strange! It's funny how things change x

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  6. Going to have to remember these for uni next year, its kind of scary but I think letters sound really fun! Going to try that, with cute photos and updates xx

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    1. Aw I hope you end up sending letters! They're really fun :) x

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  7. Totally agree with this Kathryn. I love sending letters. I feel like it's almost a dying art form, haha! x

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    1. Definitely, everyone just reverts to social media which is fine but sending letters is always more fun x

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  8. One of my friend's is moving to a different continent this year and I'm really worried that we won't be close anymore. This was really helpful and I really hope it works for us. Thanks for sharing!
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    Aria | Girl in a Whimsical Land

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    1. Thank you, I'm glad you liked the post! That sucks that your friend is moving but I'm sure you will keep in touch :) x

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  9. This is a great post! I agree it's so hard. I have a long distance boyfriend and I find it hard so this is great help thank you!
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    1. Thank you! Aw, I know how tough that can be but I'm glad you enjoyed the post x

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  10. Friend of mine just moved to the US. She'll send me her address soon and we're going to write each other letters. I think it'll be fun :D

    xx Izzy | Qthee

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    1. Aw that's lovely! I hope you enjoy it x

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  11. Great post. I have lots of long distance friendships myself and my main piece of advice would be to not worry if you don't talk for a while. Friendships are based on trust and not second guessing if the other person likes you still or not. Insecurities can kill a friendship so its really key to remember that your friend will always be your friend.

    Amber xx
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    1. Thanks lovely! That advice is important to keep in mind, me and my best friend who is at Uni don't keep in touch often but we're still as close as we ever were and respect that :) x

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  12. I love reading posts like this! I think you've addressed this topic well :)

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