Friday, 15 July 2016

Dear Diary: Why Men Suck (Holiday No-mance)


Apologies for the ugly header photo, I was in no mood for a fancy-shmancy set up whilst writing this.

It's no secret that I've been a right moody bitch since I got back from my holiday. Why, may you ask? All because of a boy. A stupid boy. It's a shame I'm too much of a nice person to share the full extent of the story behind this post, because trust me, it's a good'n and I guarantee it would have you cringing from behind the screen.

My miserable attempt of a love life is something I've never touched on over here on my blog before, or any of my social media for that matter. I'm all about keeping your private life private and all that, but sometimes you just want a gossip don't you? You want to know what all the shady tweets and the angry snapchats are about. 

So here we go... Deep breaths. 

7 years ago, I met a boy. Christ that makes me sound old, I was 14 ok? (I think). Little did I know that 7 years later, said boy would still be in my head, meddling with my mind and my feelings. I won't go into the details of our past because quite frankly... It's long, confusing and a bit of a drag. You're probably reading this like, why is this relevant? GET TO THE POINT GIRL.

Said boy lives in Turkey, and was always a good egg. Was. Upon returning home last week, I quickly learnt boy is no longer a good egg. Boy has a girlfriend. Boy insisted on telling me when I met up with him that he has no girlfriend. You see what I'm getting at now? Ok so, my feelings this time round may not have been as strong as they once were, but it still hurts.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who's been in this position so what did I decide to do? I took matters into my own hands. I told this girlfriend everything. I probably could have been more chill, but when psycho Kat is in full swing, there's no stopping me. To put it blunty, said girlfriend has decided to go back to him and here I am taking the full blame. Somehow this is my fault that he was basically cheating on her but *sips tea*, I'm over that.

Unluckily for said boy, I have booked to stay at the hotel he works at in September (not deliberately, I promise there was a good deal for it) so he can prepare to feel the wrath of Kathryn. Either that or it'll be a week full of awkward glances and silence, I'll leave that up to him.

The moral of this post guys and gals is, when you have a hunch that something isn't right and you're going to get hurt - you're probably right. Investigate the crap out of it and for the love of god look out for yourself before it's too late. But maybe be more chill than me and try not to ruin their life in the process like I did, soz not soz.

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  1. Argh, what an utter arse! I'm just glad you found out what he was like and weren't left thinking he was a good guy still.

    But seriously what IS it with girls getting the blame when they're single and it's the guy who has done the dirty and not told the girl that he has a girlfriend? It's absolutely ridiculous isn't it??

    Hope you're okay.x

    Paula http://insertmyblognamehere.blogspot.com

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    1. I just knew deep down that I was right, and turned out I was right haha! Stupid boy. x

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  2. What an arsehole. I went through something very similar, I was 14 when I got with a lad and still think about him from time to time. Although now, said lad has a girlfriend but denies it to me when we talk. Guys are so nice aren't they? Thank you for sharing this! xo

    https://57-days.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I literally don't understand it at all. How hard is it to be honest?! x

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  3. Hope your ok - you sound better off without him! Really enjoyed reading a more personal post!

    www.whynotblog.co.uk

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  4. I had this guy in my life (let's call him Jake), whose best friend loved me (let's call him Leo) but I could tell he was very uneasy about my relationship with Jake. Leo, by the way was dating a friend I had known since I was 4 at the time.
    Any way... One day Jake, took some time off to come with me to the doctors, he gets a call from Leo who asks to speak with me.So, while we are waiting for the next subway to come (this predates be living in the UK), Leo proceeds to tell me this: Jake has been in an on off again relationship with this girl he met in school. Recently, he has been on again, then he met me. While STILL with this girl again, he started dating me. This made me The Other Woman! Why did Leo tell me? Because Jake was getting serious with me, while still with the first girl! WTF!?
    Long story short, we fought... in public... I missed my train... and I told him to go home. More shite happened but that is the crux of it. SO girl, fear not, we are in the same boat!!
    Angie | Chocolate & Lipstick | Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

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    1. Guys suck. It's official. Not all of them but, the shady ones. x

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  5. Boys suck, not men. He sounds like a little boy. You are a freaking beautiful and incredibly person, I am proud of your for telling his GF and he cannot get away with it. Whether she listens or not is not your problem, it'll be in her head now! You know where I am if you ever need to talk, just think yourself lucky for getting away from that one! You deserve Prince Charming not a rat.

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    1. You're so right gal. Love you lots! x

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  6. Arghh I'm so annoyed for you!! It's going to sound cliche as well, but you're worth so much more. You'll find a prince one day and he won't be anything like this one! xxx

    Sam // What I Know Now

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  7. Some guys make stupid decisions and then are to much of a coward to take responsibility ya know.. I'm sorry that happened to you, but you learned so much from it. Stay strong girl. Thanks for a vulnerable post like this :)


    www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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  8. God I remember all the heartbreak I had when I was growing up and unfortunately it's what we have to experience growing up as I've done the whole long distance relationship thing and personally I don't see it ever working someone always looses interest and needs someone there with them all the time but you don't need him if he is going to act like a boy because the right person will come along soon x

    Leanne | www.oohsimplething.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. We did long distance years ago and yeah... It ain't easy. Actually it usually ends up a mess haha. Thanks lovely! x

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  9. What an absolute dick, I don't blame you for telling his girlfriend! You're definitely right about trusting your instincts, and you deserve so much better! Lots of love xx

    Toasty

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  10. This truly sucks, I do NOT get people that say they don't have a bf/gf to others to get it on with someone else. Don't least people on and play games, it turns nasty quickly! I can't wait to see how your stay pans out in September, make sure to update us! xxx

    Jasmine || http://www.blogsallbeautyy.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Me neither gal, me neither. I can't wait to go back hahaha, we're talking again now but it'll be interesting to say the least. You can probs guarantee there'll be a part 2 in October! x

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  11. I can't believe people do this stuff... however, I can't really say much because I've been in a very similar situation with who my boyfriend currently is. Don't get me wrong, it took a lot to get here and I'm still very insecure but I'm working towards happiness daily. I'm so sorry that he put you through this.

    xo, Kimberly
    www.lifeofkimberly.com

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    1. Aw lovely I'm sorry. You deserve to be happy and I hope you are! x

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  12. He sucks. That girl will soon get hurt and realise, and she'll wish she'd listened to you! xx

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  13. You're better off without him! A lot can happen when you're miles apart and don't see each other. Don't feel bad, he's girlfriend is the fool for going back with him. Sounds like you had a lucky escape!! By the way I love that lavender spray in your photo! Actually wrote a post on it a few months back. So good.

    Love Hannah xx

    www.HannahHawes.com

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  14. I wish I had the opportunity to slap him when I could haha!! I cannot believe his girlfriend went back to him.. she is a fool! It definitely sounds like you had a lucky escape... you enjoy your holiday hun and do not even give him a second glance (OK.. maybe a quick slap and then you are even ha!

    Saira
    www.throughthegliterglass.wordpress.com
    xxx

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  15. I wish I had the opportunity to slap him when I could haha!! I cannot believe his girlfriend went back to him.. she is a fool! It definitely sounds like you had a lucky escape... you enjoy your holiday hun and do not even give him a second glance (OK.. maybe a quick slap and then you are even ha!

    Saira
    www.throughthegliterglass.wordpress.com
    xxx

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